As a father has compassion on his children, so
the Lord has compassion on those who fear him Psalm 103:13 (New International
Version)
Mother’s Day always seems
like a big deal – everyone goes to see their mom and takes her flowers and then
out to eat. Fathers sometimes seem to get the raw end of the deal on Father’s
Day. No one goes out to eat; it’s summer, so they grill out instead and Dad might
be doing most of the work.
It also seems that, at least
in the past generations, we shower more affection on our mothers. They always
get a hug. Dear ol’ dad? Maybe a handshake or a nod of the head.
I never considered myself
a hugger. As kids, it wasn’t something we did as our parents didn’t initiate
it. As we got older, though, Mom would hug us hello or good-bye. Dad? The nod
of the head. I only remember hugging Dad twice in my lifetime.
The first time, I had been
living in Colorado and flew home in February or March for a long weekend
because he had been in the hospital with chest pain. I was worried about him
and Mom too, how they were both coping. I called the airline (because there was
no internet then), booked a flight, asked my boss if she could take me to the
airport as well as pick me up, and called my sister Pat to pick me up at the
airport. I think she spilled it to Mom that I was coming home, but Dad didn’t
have a clue. I remember walking in the kitchen door and him meeting me with a
genuine smile on his face. I threw my arms around his neck and he returned the
hug.
The second time, Mom and
Dad were driving out with the fifth wheel to see me in Colorado. They called
from Sterling one evening to say they wouldn’t be able to make it all the way
to Castle Rock that night, but would see me in the morning. When my boyfriend
at the time got off work sometime after nine that night, I asked if we could
jump in his car and drive out to meet them. It was well after midnight when we
pulled into their campground, and everyone for miles around was fast asleep. We
hunkered down in Dan’s car and slept as best we could until daylight. I woke
with the sun and spied Dad out walking the dog. I ran over to him and threw
myself into his arms. Again, he was so surprised to see me. (I blogged about that adventure once before.)
I know that there is a
wide range of relationships we have with our fathers. I had been blessed with a
dad who I could always count on.
One last memory. When I broke
my leg in eighth grade, it was Dad who picked me up and took me to the hospital,
who held me down when the doctor set my leg without any drugs. I remember the
doctor saying, “Hold her down, Paul, this is going to hurt.”
Thanks, Dad. You’ve been
gone twenty-seven years, but I still miss you and love you.
My most prized possession - the keychain my dad gave me when I moved to Colorado. |