OK, enough about me. Finally I will write you a blog about a seminar I attended. Tiffany and Tim Thompson spoke at the Café stage at 10:00 Saturday morning. What can anyone say about Tiffany? If I ever thought I could be a professional speaker, she is the woman I would want to be. She is soo cute and funny and just genuine. I would believe anything that came out of her mouth. And her husband of 23 years is just about as adorable.
Their talk was “Til death do us part: 5 myths about marriage”. First myth: Compatibility. You and your spouse will share the same likes and interests and personality. Not. We all know that. It is true that opposites attract and that is so that you can complement each other. But you have to allow it to work that way. He is organized and she is not, and that’s good coz then she doesn’t have to be organized, but they both have to accept that that is the way it is.
Second myth: Smooth sailing. Like a sail boat on a calm lake, your marriage will be smooth. We all know that’s not true. Marriage is more like the Russell Crowe movie, “Master and Commander”. And I would add that unfortunately sometimes it is like the “Perfect Storm”. It’s going to get rough and you have to be willing to hang on, no matter how much you may puke over the side.
Third myth: The grass is greener. Where? On the other side of the fence, of course. No, not really. If you want to have green grass, water it and fertilize it. Your lawn can look as good as the neighbors. Marriage is work, work, work. It’s not going to be easier with somebody else. And, I’m going to add my thoughts here again, that the grass is also greener over the septic system, so just accept that poo is going to happen.
Fourth myth: Mission: Impossible. Statistics are pretty grim. America makes up less than 5% of the world’s population, but 50% of the world’s divorces. Every first marriage has a 50% chance of ending in divorce, every second marriage has a 60% chance of ending in divorce. So, why even bother to get married if the cards are so stacked against you? Why even try?
Because, “Jesus looked at them and said, ‘With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible’.” Matthew 19:26, New International Version (NIV)
Keep God in your marriage and the odds will swing in your favor.
Last myth: Happily Ever After. This is mostly what us girls had drilled into us from little on. The whole Disney-princess myth. If you are beautiful and patient, your Prince Charming will sweep you off your feet and you will live happily ever after. We all know those are fairy-tales, but we still all love “Pretty Woman”, don’t we, ladies?
Even if your prince isn’t handsome or rich or has a white horse, let him sweep you off your feet by washing your dishes. That’s all my prince has to do.